An important aspect of matrimonial law is that every case is distinct. Each has its own fact pattern, its own unique set of legal issues. That's one reason the advice you hear from friends or family, however well intended, often doesn't apply to your matter. I need to know the specific facts of your case before I can make any judgments or provide advice.

Expectations are also a big part of whether the divorce process goes smoothly or not. If the law or the facts of a case do not support certain expectations, I'll always tell my client that that's the case. I warn that fighting both the facts and the law will cost a lot of money - and may not achieve the desired results.

One of the most difficult aspects of the job is avoiding being a cheerleader for your client. Being an advocate is one thing; a cheerleader, quite another. It's just not the best way to achieve my client's goals. Some lawyers, especially younger or inexperienced ones, will bully or threaten, but all of that just doesn't work for me.

Some people might say that I come across as being too nice. Here's the truth: the best way to intimidate your opposition (or the other spouse) is to thoroughly and diligently prepare a case for trial from the beginning. When you are polite, professional and treat everyone the way you want to be treated, you end up getting more for your client - and at a cheaper price.

In that respect I am always prepared to tell my clients what they may not want to hear. I'll always stick to reality.

Are clients these days better informed? Absolutely. The Internet has seen to that, but there are surprising holes in understanding the process. Some myths manage to persist. Some questions don't seem to get answered. Expectations of change are naturally high in divorce. There's that old saying, the grass is always greener on the other side, but the water bill is higher.

I really believe it's the little things that make people appreciate the role you play as their divorce attorney. I stay in constant contact with my clients every step of the way and make the decision-making process a team approach. I treat my clients the way I would expect to be treated.

I love helping people, and it's the one reason that I've reached this level. I care - and it shows.