We divorce lawyers are in a unique position. We have the ability to really help a family - or to do something quite the opposite. Some lawyers will exploit a contentious divorce case in a manner where only the lawyers, not the clients benefit. Feeding upon acrimony, the process can be drawn out resulting in the unnecessary escalation of legal fees and emotion. We all hear these stories in our work. It's sad - and angering, really seeing lawyers give advice that costs people their economic security and further fracturing families, and compromising their ability to heal the scars of divorce.

I am committed to keeping my clients involved in the process, from beginning to end. After all, the more clients know about the process and the better their communication with me the less there is to fear. What you don't know often causes anxiety and confusion. Good communication with clients keeps expectations realistic, too. When expectations are distorted, the result is often frustration, exacerbation of acrimony and a disintegration of the settlement process.

When I see people for the first time, they have a diverse array of questions and many reasons for consultation. Some are simply exploring their options, and haven't made any decisions about their futures. Others are considering a course of action about which they have been pondering for some time. Still others are reacting to their spouse's intentions to pursue separation or divorce. There are unique emotional and legal concerns at every level, every stage.

One of my commitments to my clients is that I have made a habit of being available to them. Even before e-mail, and mobile communications, I made it my business to call everyone back that day, even if it means calling back late at night. Even if I haven't yet gotten the information I know they are seeking, I know how important it is to receive that return call. These relationships with clients are private, personal and important to me and to them. When I finish a case I expect that my client will remain a part of my life, though in a different and much healthier place. My goal is that each client will be comfortable telling someone that I helped them through a very difficult time.

It's an old saying that all you really have is your reputation. Building a practice takes years - years of doing the right thing, every day. It does not take much to hurt your client's interests or to damage your own reputation. I make sure that my work adds value, and helps lead to constructive resolutions. Everything you do counts. I live by that.